Do away with dad-doubt
DIY: Dad In You
So, you go all in. You add in a little perfectionism and decide you’re going to be the best damn dad these children have ever seen! Suppressing those feelings of wanting something else. Because this is your life now, and those thoughts are unworthy, right?
But that doesn’t help, does it?
You’re not just a father. You’re a husband as well. And a friend, a son, a colleague, an entrepreneur, a sports enthusiast, and a nerd, and…
Those aspects of your life deserve attention as well.
With this program, you’re going to learn how to combine all those roles you play in the great game of life, without feeling you have to give anything up.
You’ll feel better and more confident; create better relationships with yourself and with your children; and free up time to spend however you’d like.*
*Side effects include laughing more often, sleeping more soundly, hugging more intently, outings with the kids, and possibly a promotion at work.
For Dads who want to feel like themselves again
Set the standard for what a dad should do or be yourself!
Sick of living up to unrealistic expectations?
Done with the Dad guilt?
Ready to build better relationships with yourself and your children?
WHILE discovering again what makes you, you?
AND while feeling confident and in control?
Then you’re in the right place
Does this sound like you?
- You are DONE with judging yourself for imagined failings.
- You strive to be the best example for your kids
- But you don’t want to give up your identity
- You KNOW all that is possible, but you just haven’t figured out how yet
- And you want to change NOW?
What if instead?
You’d feel like the man you were, but somehow more, or better?
You’ve grown tremendously since having children. What if you could step fully into your role as a father; while enjoying all other areas of life that make you the man you are? And while using all that experience you’ve earned?
That’d make you a pretty awesome dude, wouldn’t it?
You’d go about your day with quiet confidence, and a small smile on your face – knowing both that you’re being a great role model for your children, and that the best is still to come.
So you can finally…
Lose those damn feelings – dad guilt, and that feeling of somehow not being good enough – that you’ve been walking with for months now.
DIY: Dad In You
What my clients have to say
You will get...
- weekly one-on-one calls
to get your burning questions answered, and to actively work on improvement - Personalized exercises
There’s no one size fits all in coaching. We’re putting the focus where it benefits you most! - A personalized report
So that you see what you’ve learned during our three months together, and how far you’ve come. Including points you can focus on by yourself - My telephone number and email address
So you can message me whenever you’re feeling stuck
Take a peek inside
Foundations
What roles do you play in play in life? There’s more than you’re thinking of right now. In this module, we’ll get to know ALL of you.
Module 1 (weeks 1-3)
About YOU
Each of those roles you play has its own wants and needs. In this module, we’ll discover them, and figure out their priority to you.
Module 2 (weeks 4-5)
The future
We know about you. We know about your wants and needs. We’ll take all that and make a plan, so that you can create the life that YOU want.
Module 3 (weeks 6-8)
Making it real
It’s time. Time for change. You know everything you need to know. In this module, you’ll start doing the work. Don’t worry, I’ll keep my eye on you.
Module 4 (weeks 9-12)
This is me
Hello there! I’m Matti, The Dad Coach. Like you, I’m a father. Like you, I like my nerdy hobbies. And like you, I felt like I had to give up much of myself, sacrifice my identity, to be the best father to my children. I managed to integrate my role as a father with everything else that makes me unique, and I’m absolutely loving the life I’m living and the work I’m doing. And that’s something that I’d love you to experience as well.
It all started back in September 2016. I was standing on a mountain in Sweden, tears running down my face and screaming to the heavens.
Alright, alright, the screaming part I made up. The rest is real though.
I couldn’t do it anymore. I had tried too hard. I’d set the bar too high for myself. And I was burning myself out. Not because I wanted to be a good dad. I needed to be the best dad.
And that paralyzed me. Instead of going for a walk with my 6-month-old daughter, I’d make plans to have the most amazing afternoon with her. Which led to us doing nothing, because nothing I could do, would live up to the plans I’d have for her.
So, mentally I was burning myself up, while I wasn’t really doing anything actively. It wasn’t good for me. It wasn’t good for my daughter. It wasn’t good for the relationships with my wife and with my child.
Something had to change.
But I could only change after realizing that I had to.
The path I was walking wouldn’t bring me to the place I wanted to end up: having a happy family with my wife and daughter.
The mountain moment in Sweden was the moment I realized.
Fast forward to a couple of years later. We had another kid – a beautiful and headstrong baby boy. My relationships with my wife and my children are better than ever.
Why?
Because I did the work; and it allowed me to relax into my role as a father.
Because I figured out which parts of life gave me energy, and which didn’t.
Because I discovered what my core values are, and what’s most important to me.
And because I found ways to combine all the above, and apply it to the life I’m living today.
That’s what I’m offering you as well.
You feeling confident and at-ease with yourself.
You KNOWING you’re a good father.
You realizing when to step away and take care of yourself.
And most important: you enjoying the process of growing into the man you know you’re meant to be.
You don’t need to choose. You can really have it all.
After working together, you will…
- You’ll stop feeling stressed by all the expectations and responsibilities of being a father
- You will stop thinking you’re not good enough, and start becoming confident.
- You will stop sabotaging yourself, and step into your role as a strong male role model to your children with confidence.
This is perfect for you if:
You’re a dad
You feel like you’ve lost yourself
You’re feeling overwhelmed by the expectations set upon you
You feel guilty for not being able to live up to those expectations
This is stressing you out
- You need change
This is NOT for you if:
You don’t have children
You think feeling like this is an inevitability
The reason why you’re feeling like this is entirely out of your control
You want someone else to do the work
You don’t feel this is the right moment
Join now!
Made your decision?
You’re still reading. We both know what that means.
You’ve already made your decision. You know what you have to do. It’s the one thing I can’t help you with.
Be assured though, that when you call, I’ll answer. There’s no need to hold back. And, for what it’s worth. Even if you decide not to, you’re already a winner in my book.
I’d hate for you to not grasp at this opportunity with both hands though. I know you can get rid of that burned out feeling. I know you can enjoy fatherhood to the fullest, without feeling guilty of not doing enough. And I know you can feel profound confidence and joy, while combining everything you already love with your role as a father.
Sure, I’ll still be here in 3 months. But, how will you feel in 3 month’s time if you haven’t changed?
And how do you think you could feel if you did?
Allow me to support you.
Frequent Questions
I use Stripe to take your payments. After you’ve committed to the program, I’ll send you an email with an invoice and the link where you can pay. Stripe’s really intuitive and easy to use.
Absolutely! As long as we understand each other and we have working internet connections, I’d love for you to join!
Three months. We’ll have a coaching call for 12 of those. One week’s free. We’ll decide together which one that is.
About 2,5-3 hours a week. That consists of:
- 15 minutes call prep
- 1 hour call
- 15 minutes writing out your call notes
- 1-1,5 hours exercises (10-15 minutes a day)
As soon as you’re in, I’ll send you a Zoom link for our recurring meetings.
I haven’t. It’s not a story the Jedi would tell me. Did you know it’s a Sith legend?